Amber's Debut Book
The Unfu*kwithable Life is your go-to manual for living authentically.
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1. Be fearlessly authentic
Strip back all the dishonest layers of who you thought you were, who you think you need to be, what you think you need to do and say and act like and dress like, and how you think that you need to live.
How to do you do this? Work through shame, anxieties, and self-doubt. Access vulnerability, and, most of all, find an invincible peace within yourself. To be fearlessly authentic is to live congruently with your truest values despite the fear that so naturally resides within our human existence.
2. Love and Accept yourself unconditionally.
End the internal battle that leads you to sabotage and shrink away from your potential. Tap into conscious awareness. Let go of the victim mentality. Let go of blame, guilt, resentment, and fear that is holding you back. Nurture the titanium strength of kindness and compassion. No Jedi mind games with your insecurities, stop sabotaging yourself. Phew. And thus…
3. Lead with your heart, guide with your head.
Build your life from creativity and purpose instead of approaching it with suspicion and agonizing doubt. Instead of fear shutting you down, allow it to light you up. Embrace the age old battle between what we value and what our minds say we should value. Find out what it is that you want to do with your life in each moment, and discover how the bloody hell to find the courage to do it. This code is truly the difference between existence and living. Grind, but flow with grace.
4. Feel it and free it.
Detox emotionally, man. Get that build-up of suppressed emotions that are creating noxious environments in your body, disrupting your life, and stimulating an undercurrent of emotional turbulence that has become so familiar that heaviness is normal. Learn how to let it go. Learn how to work with emotions, create a healthy relationship with this very normal human part of us, and discover how to listen to them. Dig up what needs to be released. Be able to express your emotions rather than projecting them or being run by them.
5. Get Connected
Seek connection. And I do not mean your thumb to your phone screen scrolling through Facebook or your hands on a glass of Pinot Grigio. Find a connection to your purpose, connection to your breath, and connection to inspiration, calmness, intuition and life force. Connect to how to be utterly right here right now, living. No planning, no thinking, no over-analysing, just live your life. And when you do think, it will come from a place of love and inspiration not from a place of fear of the past or want for the future. Everything you ever need is in that space
6. Choose love.
Learn to live in a state of awareness of your mind’s constant fabricated story about how rejection and failure surround every decision that you make. Figure what the heck love is, not the romantic kind but the kind that will make you fall deeply in love with life. Live openly, screw superficial stimulation and short-term fixes. Reveal to yourself your divinity, and revere in the essence that all beings reflect this inherent element of the divine.
7. Nurture your wild side.
Inject unfuckwithable into your veins. Embrace the how to attitude and mindset of unfuckwithable. Break through old conditioning; bring forth strength and depth into your every day; make unfuckwithable something tangible with action steps and palpable wisdom that you can weave into life.
These seven codes can serve as anchor questions. When you find yourself in a life pickle, you can learn to ask:
Am I just being me right now?
Am I choosing love?
Have I loved and accepted unconditionally?
I wrote this book how I would talk to my best friend. I wanted to write something simple, light, and practical that anyone can read and take inspired action, be it changing the way that they think or changing what they are doing.
I felt there were so many options for people who are already on the search and feel they’re connected, but what about people who are still figuring this shit out? Because I know I still am, and probably always will be. I need reminding of who I am and how to return to that place all the time.
