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Why Being In Control Is Overrated | Amber Hawken | Dip. Mindfulness CBT

What stays matters. What matters stays. This is your permission slip to chill. Love,

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Posted on May 15, 2018 by Amber

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I’ve learned there’s is no dance I can do deli

I’ve learned there’s is no dance I can do delicately enough to provide peace to a person who is operating from pain (and vice versa).

I’ve felt the panic pulsate in the belly of my heart that reminds me, when I play out patterns to protect my tenderness I perpetuate the performance.

In the end I’ve started to wonder, is proving, pleasing and protecting in order to placate another ever worth my peace? Ever?

I think we know the answer.

Hi, my names amber and I’m circling back through an old path I walked as a little one, trying to catch the needle of *enough* that never stopped moving because the person measuring had undefined conditions of love.

We’re currently moving through the most profound life lessons at different depths. And although I’ve never felt more content and quiet within, I see the beautiful beast gently arise.

It’s proving to be rather uncomfortable at times, but luckily, the pulse in my palms reminds me that all pressure points precede personal renascence 🤎

Hi 🙋🏼‍♀️ let’s do this. Available

Hi 🙋🏼‍♀️ let’s do this.

Available for anyone online.

Register your spot and I’ll email the details out this week.

It’ll be around 90 minutes total from beginning to end.

This type of breathwork is therapeutic and it’s a constant connected circular breathing.

I teach from the angle of a background in trauma therapy training as well as performance breathwork and traditional pranayama. My my focus will be nervous system optimisation and nourishment over a *bigger* experience as I won’t be there in person with you.

It’s a very powerful tool for shifting tension, stagnant or built of emotion, enhancing clarity and increasing life force energy.

Not suitable for women who are pregnant or anyone with a history of seizures.

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Folks who came to Breath Odyssey yesterday — how

Folks who came to Breath Odyssey yesterday — how’re you doing? TELL ME! I have heard from many of you from the gram or text. What about the rest!?

Let me know below (emoji’s are acceptable in this case).

I’m this right now — (see next image).

You lot were bloody sensational yesterday. 55 breathing bodies, moving energy, life force, tension and visiting yourself back home (inside/kinda inside outside).

There were some pretty special people in that room yesterday. I’m always blown away by the open and friendly people who come along. 70% new faces and 30% people who feel like family. Even some of my personal teachers were participants!

It was quite a special experience to bring the science and technology of breathwork to life on a whiteboard before diving into the expansiveness of its all. My two worlds collide!

To our practitioners and support crew. I must have scored soul brownie points last life time to land the perfect family who are always with me and I with them. The way you worked the room to support people during the journey is some of the most impeccable work I’ve ever witnessed. Always is. Thank you for being a part of the teacher I am today.

Big love all.

P.S. NSW — I’m heating up inside about the lockdown — so, how about an online journey this Thursday 9am? I’ll guide you, the session is ON ME. I love you, since I can’t hold you, I’ll help breathe you. If you’d be interested (ANYONE who feels they need a therapeutic session is welcome to attend if I run it online), please let me know below with a yes and I will make it happen.

One sleep until we connect together, and connect t

One sleep until we connect together, and connect the breath together at Breath Odyssey.

It’s rare, but I’ve been writing notes.
Only three hours to teach about the breathe AND guide too through a therapeutic journey.

It’ll be a miracle (which I expect, mmhhmm) but we’ll squeeze in the principles of breathwork, the fundamentals of functional and efficient breathing, my three favourite techniques that IMO everything should know and practice.

Yeeehaaaa. I was sitting in meditation last night, and I realised that a marker is set for @calmmindco (currently building an app after stripping errrrrything back — no schools — no mines — back to the basics) was a wee be self centred. I wanted to reach 1 million people the method I put together through an app. I feel I’ll die a happy woman if I facilitated that (figure of speech).

And then I thought about the 100th monkey theory and wondered how many humans would need to change the way they breathe in order for mass consciousness to shift and thennnnnn I realised I want this app and ripple effect to still be kicking decades after I die. So I’m extending it now to AD 🤗😝🔥 not sure of the number still but I’ll figure it out.

Tomorrow I’ll be guiding about 50 wonderful humans through the philosophies and practices I believe will shift both the big mind and our little minds. This work makes me feel I have warm butterflies flapping in my heart and dragons fire on my belly at the same time.

There’s a few spots left — if anyone would like to join us tomorrow on the Gold Coast (linksup. in my bio).

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The most difficult place for most men is percolati

The most difficult place for most men is percolation between wanting to be in integrity but not being able to remain open while holding the intensity that arises when taking responsibility for their life required to get in alignment.

That gap between where they feel stuck and where they want to be? It’s painfully simple (pun not intended) and can be bridged by a radically honest inventory (with self or other) of where in their life they’re responsible for creating toxic relationships and patterns.

It takes tremendous courage and insight for a man to look at where they have been unconscious, neglected, disconnected, taken, dodged, numbed, dismissed or been manipulative in their life.

When a man turns away from this practice, he turns away from himself. And any request of presence or desire offered to him feels like a burden and more often than not — punishment. Be it from life, their work or intimate lover.

It cultivates resistance and addictive patterns; the insatiable need for more. Be it work, money, sex, food, spiritual highs or control.

It goes on like this until their life collapses or the a party gives up their needs or leaves. The space left behind echos their deepest wounds — shame.

And they’re quick to direct attention to where they’re more apt to *succeed*.

Moving from avoidance into ownership can begin by understanding that taking responsibility — unflinching, without ifs, buts, excuses or watered down apologies — is a reclamation of the attention that’s been left to wander to what’s not aligned.

I have watched men dip their toes in, teeter on the edges, I’ve heard them tell themselves, their friends and their partners that they’ve got it covered and stay an arms length away from the next step.

Most men have not yet cultivated this skill of remaining open to this kind of intensity. Their constitution isn’t primed for that exposure too feeling. Yet.

It’s happening everyday and all around us (kudos to those men) and it’s bloody beautiful.

It’s a practice and truly, a decision that has to be made by the man himself. The best part? When done fully has immense potential to change the destiny and direction of your life (and the world).

New podcast episode out with @adam_kavanagh_ the b

New podcast episode out with @adam_kavanagh_ the bloody legend!

Ep 54 The Primal Approach to Healing Hyperthyroidism and, Living Your Life.

This conversation reveals what organic self-discovery looks like (as opposed to seeking).

Adam shares how it was one foot in front of the other for him.

Tending to the big nudges and following the subtle pulls of what felt right for him and of course, moving towards what was both confronting and liberating.

From addressing severe panic attacks and bouts of depression connected to hyperthyroidism, to appearing on @nakedandafraid and being torn open by a wild boar this episode is full of rad turns, insights and laughs.

The adjective primal describes something that’s essential or basic, like the primal urge to protect yourself and your family from harm. The Latin root of primal is primus, which means first. If your friend talks about his primal self, he means the most basic, important part of who he is.

This episode is revealing in so many ways at it mirrors in a very down to earth way, the exploration of our darkest corners ans highest highs at humans.

Link for the episode is in my bio or playing on Spotify and iTunes now.

@adam_kavanagh_ is going to be a feature workshop at our men’s retreat in august this year. For more info — link in my bio.

Have a wonderful weekend, gram fam.

The question is for you. Interpret it however you

The question is for you.
Interpret it however you please.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below 👇🏼

Think that your big feelings need big solutions?

Think that your big feelings need big solutions?

Think again.

After almost 10 years working in trauma therapy, I’ve come full circle back to what I learned at 13 years young from my German Football coach — strength lies in harmony.

In this instance, I am referring to the harmony of our psychology, physiology, and in turn our emotions and energy using the breath.

On average we take 20,000 breaths a day. For 90% of people, those breaths are not just inefficient, they’re creating chaotic chemical states in the body and fueling anxious and fearful overthinking.

The cherry on top? Most people experience this state as their norm.

That, to me, is a hideous statistic.

How can we even humour the idea of self-governance if we aren’t even in the conscious authority of our nervous system?

Why are we taught calculus before we are taught how to navigate our own bodies?

The bottom line is.

The breathing system in most people is impaired and not functioning at an optimum level.

Once the breathing mechanism is restored the breath itself becomes a free and readily available tool for increasing energy (breaking stimulation dependence), enhancing focus (breaking patterns of attention-deficit) and switching the body's alerts to safe (making room for feeling feelings).

It becomes a source of energy, a tool for focus, and a healing modality that we are in charge of.

I have created a workshop that combines both practical, functional breathing techniques and a connected therapeutic breathwork journey.

Breath Odyssey will be running on June 26th on the Gold Coast.

Breath Odyssey will shift the way you relate to the breath and show you how to safely and positively shift your physiological, psychological, and emotional wellbeing.

Head to the link in my bio to learn more and join us 🌬🌪💥
Ambs

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