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The Unfu*kwithable Life: 7 Codes to Embrace Connection & Vulnerability to Create a Life of Freedom and Inspiration
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An Unfu*kwithable Life is one of emotional, mental and most of all spiritual freedom.

Whether you are a seasoned personal development addict or you prefer not to venture into 'self help-woo-woo-crap', The Unfu*kwithable Life, will provoke you to think much more deeply and profoundly about how you define yourself, happiness and success and ultimately challenge you to access your highest level of fulfillment.



1. to be in a state of such self-connection and acceptance that peace, authenticity, joy, and inspiration permeate every aspect of life, and fear cannot stop you.

7 Codes to Embrace Connection & Vulnerability to Create a Life of Freedom and Inspiration

It encompasses 7 codes, each containing punchy lessons for mastering the expression of your soul whilst simultaneously, navigating through this imperfect human experience. 

Giving you the tools to live a remarkable life, with fierce determination, inner peace and strength.

Shameless and uncensored, this book will knock the wind out of your ego and put the sail back into your soul.

It will force you to get uncomfortably honest with yourself, so you can shatter the limits you’ve been clinging to for comfort. 

It’s designed to teach the greatest lessons of self mastery and spiritual philosophy through humour and straight shooting advice, to trigger a force deep inside of you that’s here for something spectacular. 

Kerry Brookes

The Unfu*kwithable Life, is the best friend you never had to call you out on the things that should have been said or done. It prevents the future "I told you so" mental moments and guides you to your authentic and happy self.

Ellen Travassaros

The Unfu*kwithable Life, has this incredible way of awakening your soul, inspiring you to take control of your life and to own every inch of who you are.

From the preface

What’s Stopping us from being Unfuckwithable?

What if I told you that the root of all evil was not money? It’s also not men or religion. The greatest affliction that plagues this planet isn’t pollution or Big Pharma.

It’s not even tomatoes. I fucking hate those things. *sigh*

No. It is inauthenticity.

The antidote is inversely authenticity accessed through connection.

We are living in an age of addiction to short-term, instant stimulation and gratification, which is quite literally at our fingertips. This accessibility makes it difficult to change the shit that we don’t like about our lives because the stimulation acts as a numbing agent. It distracts us from the discomfort created by being inauthentic. It numbs the uneasiness enough for us to ignore the fact that we do not really know ourselves anymore, and, thus, we do not know what we crave at a deeper level. Alas, we settle for much less than our soul desires.

We look around; most people are doing the same thing, so this insanity is barely questioned. We accept quick-fixes and mistake the Band-Aid solution for happiness, even though it is not all that we are capable of experiencing in life.

The 7 Codes are:

1. Be fearlessly authentic

Strip back all the dishonest layers of who you thought you were, who you think you need to be, what you think you need to do and say and act like and dress like, and how you think that you need to live.

How to do you do this? Work through shame, anxieties, and self-doubt. Access vulnerability, and, most of all, find an invincible peace within yourself. To be fearlessly authentic is to live congruently with your truest values despite the fear that so naturally resides within our human existence.

2. Love and Accept yourself unconditionally.

End the internal battle that leads you to sabotage and shrink away from your potential. Tap into conscious awareness. Let go of the victim mentality. Let go of blame, guilt, resentment, and fear that is holding you back. Nurture the titanium strength of kindness and compassion. No Jedi mind games with your insecurities, stop sabotaging yourself. Phew. And thus…

3. Lead with your heart, guide with your head.

Build your life from creativity and purpose instead of approaching it with suspicion and agonizing doubt. Instead of fear shutting you down, allow it to light you up. Embrace the age old battle between what we value and what our minds say we should value. Find out what it is that you want to do with your life in each moment, and discover how the bloody hell to find the courage to do it. This code is truly the difference between existence and living. Grind, but flow with grace.

4. Feel it and free it.

Detox emotionally, man. Get that build-up of suppressed emotions that are creating noxious environments in your body, disrupting your life, and stimulating an undercurrent of emotional turbulence that has become so familiar that heaviness is normal. Learn how to let it go. Learn how to work with emotions, create a healthy relationship with this very normal human part of us, and discover how to listen to them. Dig up what needs to be released. Be able to express your emotions rather than projecting them or being run by them.

5. Get Connected

Seek connection. And I do not mean your thumb to your phone screen scrolling through Facebook or your hands on a glass of Pinot Grigio. Find a connection to your purpose, connection to your breath, and connection to inspiration, calmness, intuition and life force. Connect to how to be utterly right here right now, living. No planning, no thinking, no over-analysing, just live your life. And when you do think, it will come from a place of love and inspiration not from a place of fear of the past or want for the future. Everything you ever need is in that space

6. Choose love.

Learn to live in a state of awareness of your mind’s constant fabricated story about how rejection and failure surround every decision that you make. Figure what the heck love is, not the romantic kind but the kind that will make you fall deeply in love with life. Live openly, screw superficial stimulation and short-term fixes. Reveal to yourself your divinity, and revere in the essence that all beings reflect this inherent element of the divine. 

7. Nurture your wild side.

Inject unfuckwithable into your veins. Embrace the how to attitude and mindset of unfuckwithable. Break through old conditioning; bring forth strength and depth into your every day; make unfuckwithable something tangible with action steps and palpable wisdom that you can weave into life.

These seven codes can serve as anchor questions. When you find yourself in a life pickle, you can learn to ask:

Am I just being me right now?

Am I choosing love?

Have I loved and accepted unconditionally?

I wrote this book how I would talk to my best friend. I wanted to write something simple, light, and practical that anyone can read and take inspired action, be it changing the way that they think or changing what they are doing.

I felt there were so many options for people who are already on the search and feel they’re connected, but what about people who are still figuring this shit out? Because I know I still am, and probably always will be. I need reminding of who I am and how to return to that place all the time.

Meet the author, Amber Hawken:

Amber is an Australian country gal with a big, bold, and audacious heart. A Diploma of Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, a qualified Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Deep State Re-Patterning Therapist are some of the professional qualifications and tools that Amber brings to her work around emotional, mental, and spiritual self-mastery. She is the host of the Podcast and YouTube, Be Unfuckwithable.

Amber’s previous work in medicine, with a Bachelor of Medical Radiation Science: Radiation Therapy, eventually steered her to study neuroscience, mind-body connection, and spiritual philosophy. Amber brings both practicality and an open, rational, and well-rounded perspective to everything that she does. She is mischievously antagonistic and facetious as a speaker, writer, and mentor, dedicated to helping people find what it is that they stand for within themselves and in life. She uses what may seem like counter intuitive approach to self-help. Amber has been single-handedly running her own company of retreats, live events, one on one coaching, and online programs for half a decade giving her tremendous amounts of experience and excellent success rates with over a thousand clients.

Amber’s education, work, and relationships contribute to the genuine wisdom and expertise in everything that she teaches

"Amber has this incredible way of awakening your soul, inspiring you to take control of your life and to own every inch of who you are."

Ellen Travassaros

"The best thing about Amber is, you know change is about to happen at a new level. After working with her, I am so empowered. I recognise my gifts and true potential and have completely changed my thinking. My life is so much more fulfilling instead of shallow and uncertain. My mind is my greatest tool and she taught me this so well."

Andrea Thorpe

"Amber has a unique ability to really understand human fulfillment and what it takes to make necessary changes to live an extraordinary life"

Kristie Ord

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Did you know that a sex trafficking victim is often raped 10-20 times a day, so in a period of 6 months that's anywhere between 1,800 to 3,600 times?

The Unfu*kwithable Life Support Free To Shine to help prevent sex trafficking in Cambodia.

Free To Shine is a child protection organisation preventing children from being trafficked into the commercial sex industry, in Cambodia. Free To Shine partner with families and communities to keep their children safe. They work with the police, commune and village leaders, councils for women and children, teacher, and school directors. They secure girls’ safety by helping them achieve their rights to access education, safe drinking water, enough food, and adequate shelter.

  • Every one of these books sold keeps four girls safe from being trafficked and in school for one day.
  • Every 250 books sold builds a house to keep them out of the traffickers way.
  • And every 2120 books will secure an entire village and keep them safe from sex traffickers.

Matt Roberts

This helped me when nothing else could.

Saraya Kirby

It has a way of cutting through the BS and nurturing change that gets real life changing results.

Stacey Roddick

This book shines a light on the life limiting stories that you tell yourself, allowing you to see through your own bullsh*t and realise your true capabilities and worthiness.


Darren Elliott

This book is like your modern day alchemist. It helps you on your journey of self discovery and empowers you to follow your dreams.